Both my husband and I are natural homebodies. This bodes well for us during these little-kiddo family years, because trying to orchestrate a date night OUT is like attempting to get all the stars and all the planets to align perfectly, it seems! 😳 Something always happens last minute: a child gets sick, the babysitter has to cancel, etc. We could definitely be more proactive about going OUT to keep that flame alive, but, you know what…? We just really like staying in. Together.
(My favorite boyfriend…back when I was a blonde, apparently…?? 😳😂)
However, because we know it would be easy to fall into a “two ships passing in the night” kind of situation what with his strange work hours at the hospital and the nuttiness of four daughters seven years old and younger, we really do make an effort to create time at the close of the day that’s just for us. (And I mean time besides sexy times…I mean, we have four kids, man. Where do ya think they came from?! 😏 Another favorite to-do, but I won’t get into that here….hehe….😉) Yeah, sure, there are nights that I flop on the bed to watch “Outlander” or something from “Bachelor” Nation on my own while he settles into the couch for DVR’d golf marathons. I mean, we are regular humans, after all. 😉 But! The majority of our evening hours are spent together.
(Our engagement pics. WE WERE BABIES, oh my word! 🙀 At the time, the ripe ol’ age of 22 seemed as though we were wise beyond our years, but good grief. BABIES!!!)
It’s the little things, really, that make our evenings sort of like mini-date nights…but in our PJ’s. The best kind of date of all!! Ha! For example, we usually don’t eat dessert with the kids, but instead we save it to eat together snuggled up in bed as we chat about our days. A glass of wine (me) and an apple ale (him) by the glow of the Christmas lights never hurt no one, mmmkay? 😉 Seriously though, just knowing we BOTH want to hurry up to get to bed so we can actually look at each other’s faces and hear the words coming out of each other’s mouths sans crazy kid chaos is a strange form of romance in and of itself, and our evening quiet time is a balm to the weary parent’s soul.
(Camp counselors together one summer before we were married. I think this was some sort of themed dress-up thing…? I hope…? 😳😂)
Another way we try to make these evenings in special is to grab sushi or a special meal we both love as takeout earlier in the evening, and then we wait to eat together curled up in our cozy bed after the kids are asleep. Sushi in my softies?!?! Yes. Yes please. 🙌🏻 We also really try to find Netflix binges that appeal to both of us so that we can spend TV-time together, rather than in two separate rooms watching two separate things. Not every single night, like I mentioned above, but something as small as sharing our favorite shows and movies together each night gives us something to look forward to and to chat about later. It’s small. But we love it. After our dinner or dessert/drinks (or all three!), I lay my head on his lap and he runs his fingers through my hair to help relieve tension (my FAVORITE THING HE DOES EVER IN THE HISTORY OF EVER❤️), and we relax in knowing we’re together, the kids are tucked away, and it’s time to just breathe and rest.
(We were close friends for two years before getting together. I bought him at a date “auction” fundraiser for our college student council, and, after threatening all the other girls within an inch of their lives not to even think about, I walked out with the best $75 I’d ever spent. ❤️)
By NO MEANS are we this perfect #goals couple who never fights and does all the saccharine sweet, Instagram-worthy things. Nope. We argue. We are grumpy sometimes. He snores and I toot and sometimes we could use some mediation with regards to who gets the bigger of the two cookies on the plate. I’m not great with encouraging words; he’s not great with organization/planning. He impersonates Jimmy Stewart just to drive me insane, and I force him to listen to Broadway tunes on repeat. We’re normal. And, right now, we find ourselves in this crazy busy, loud, swirly season of life where fancy date nights out are rarer by the year….so we compensate! We could definitely be a bit more proactive in making the effort to go out, but, when we do stay in, it’s our favorite time of the day. Quiet snuggles just the two of us. Here’s to staying in. ❤️
What about you? Do you and your person go out or stay in more? Change with the season of your life like us? Do you also toot and impersonate Jimmy Stewart and still find yourselves in love?! 😉